Posts tagged ‘blogging’

September 17, 2012

FAQ’s, second quarter

by maria polonchek

1. So are you guys still doing your blog?

The blog, the blog…oh, yes! The blog! Of course we’re still doing the blog! What day is it? Oh, it’s September already?

So, the blog. We’re going to try a little experiment with format and self-imposed deadlines. For the next while, look for one post a week from each of us as we attempt a true back-and-forth on a new topic each week. We’re going for quality over quantity AND avoiding the literary whiplash Katie referred to in a previous post.

Katie will be writing on the first topic in the next few days. Stay tuned!

That covers it for the FAQ’s this quarter. Maybe you can review the ones from last quarter if you really miss us?

xxoo,

maria and katie

 

 

June 21, 2012

creating a creative practice?

by maria polonchek

Yes, it was Katy Perry, and those are some boobs, but the dress is more of a chartreuse than an eggplant. My bad. I probably have the lyrics wrong, too. (image: babble.com)

Uhg. How quickly I let my routines fall to the wayside. Is everyone like this or is it just some of us? It’s like that pop-singer’s song that was turned into a Sesame-Street version that got banned, that I’ll never get out of my head. I think it was Katy Perry, because I remember boobs. Lots of boobs. In purple. She sang to Elmo, with her purple-clad boobs, and a pouty face: “You’re up, then you’re down. You’re hot, then you’re cold.”

I don’t mean to be like this, despite claims to the contrary. (My aunt once said something along the lines of, “I think you like being such a mess.” No, I don’t.)

We left for vacation in early June. I was going to tell you readers, and warn you not to expect to hear from me but not to worry that I was checked into a mental hospital or had run off to join PETA. But it was all I could do to get myself and three kids packed for 10 days in ONE carry-on. (I may not be as weirdly cheap as you, Katie, (seriously, the ketchup-thing was just over the top. Look what happens to you when I move away.) but I’ll be damned if I’m going to pay an airline to CHECK MY BAG.)

So, yes, the Poloncheks went on vacation. We needed it to be a true vacation from pretty much everything: the usual house, the usual weather, the usual routine. So we went away to a place that was super-hot with humidity that made my hair curl into the old tendrils you knew and loved in Kansas, watched TV a LOT, used air-conditioning, rotated between pajamas and swim suits, and slept in and stayed up even later than usual. And NO BLOGGING. Blogging makes me see the world so differently and, honestly, not feel like I can be 100% present because I’m always making notes for a post in my head. I didn’t want to do that to my family on vacation.

But we’re back now, we have been for almost a week, and I can’t seem to sit down and write the million posts I feel backed-up on. (It’s like blogging constipation.)

But our host (is that what it’s called, techies?), wordpress, features new, well-written blogs everyday on “freshly pressed” and I check in with them when I’m feeling like a loser-blogger. One caught my eye for my particular sense of loser-ness. It was on creating more and worrying less. One point in particular, #3, spoke to me. (Some of the others I’ve already mastered, like getting used to rejection.) It was on establishing a regular creative practice, or, the much feared concept of a routine. I was getting there with this blog, before we moved to a new house a few months ago, and then I was getting there again, before we went on vacation. But as soon as I miss a few days, that’s it until I just FORCE myself to type SOMETHING, which is why you are getting this ramble instead of the new topics I’ve wanted to post on. They are, as follows:

  • My long-awaited and much-anticipated thoughts on 50 Shades of Grey.
  • What your swimwear choice says about you.
  • Why I blaim the advertising staff at Honda for all that’s wrong with my generation’s understanding of parenting.
  • A tribute to my mum, who is here, helping with domestic duties, and encouraging me to write every day.
  • What a broken swiffer has taught me about mindfulness and house-cleaning.

And, of course, the other things I’ve brought up in previous posts that I’ve promised to extrapolate on and have yet to do so.

But, here is my first post “back” and my re-commitment to maintaining a routine for creative practice. (Although I do fear it’s like the many times I kept re-dedicating my virginity to the church until one of the young-person group-leaders said, “Maria, maybe you should stop setting yourself up for failure.”)

That’s what I’ve got today folks. Talk soon.

xxoo, maria

May 24, 2012

not knowing what to say

by maria polonchek

Most of the time, I think co-blogging is a great idea. Some of the time, though, I wonder. For instance, right now, I have a long list titled “blog ideas” that includes: some thoughts on the latest book I read about food; ideas for design on a budget/ with kids/ as a renter; motherhood and feminism; some connections between writing about faith and writing about motherhood; my experiment with making my bed every day.

But. I’m kind of frozen because none of that seems important after your last entry and the news about Scott’s dad. And I’m one of those people who never knows what to say about this kind of news….I’m so sorry. Of course I am. But I can’t say I know exactly what you guys are going through and if I can’t fully empathize, I sort of freeze up, for some reason. I guess I don’t want to say the wrong thing. And I’m pretty glad you told me over the blog and not by phone so you wouldn’t have to gracefully endure my bumbling and stuttering and end up trying to make me feel better about my lack of empathy and eloquence rather than me trying to make you feel better about a Very Real Thing you are experiencing right now.

I guess this is partly a bridge for tomorrow’s entry, when I attempt to get to that “blog ideas” list, and partly a way for me to acknowledge that you and your family are hurting and scared and hopeful, all at the same time, and that I feel pretty useless as a friend, though this is definitely not about me.

I’m here, both virtually and literally, if you need to talk. I love prayer beads. I bought some once, in Ireland, when I was there for my senior trip. I returned home and gave them to my best friend, who grew up Catholic. She used to take me to church with her in high school and it was such a refreshing difference from the churches I grew up in. I loved the cushy kneelers, and the memorized prayers (like chants, almost), and the line for communion. I wasn’t supposed to take communion, because I wasn’t Catholic myself, but I didn’t know. My friend never told me. It doesn’t matter now, because she isn’t Catholic anymore, anyway. But it was a small town and there had to be people in that church who knew the girl visiting wasn’t supposed to be taking communion and maybe someone should say something.

But they let me do it anyway.

May 9, 2012

FAQs, first quarter

by maria polonchek
  1. I see your post updates on facebook occasionally and/or check the blog every day to see if there is anything new. Is there a better way to know when you’ve written a new post?  On the top right sidebar of every page, there is a link you can click on that says “follow this blog!” If you click on it and fill in your email address, you will receive an email every time we publish a new post. You can also use an RSS feed, but we don’t really know what that means.
  2. I’m a friend of Katie’s, which is how I found out about the blog, and I think Maria swears too much. Is it OK if I only read Katie’s posts?  Yes.
  3. I’m a friend of Maria’s, which is how I found out about the blog, and I think Katie talks about God too much. Is it OK if I only read Maria’s posts?  Yes. 
  4. I’m a friend of Katie’s/Maria’s, which is how I found out about the blog, and I think you both have interesting things to say, even though you are different. Is it best-case-scenario if I read both of your posts?  Absolutely.
  5. Is there any way Maria can be less offensive? No, probably not.
  6. You two don’t seem very organized or consistent. Do you think maybe you should work on that? That, and other things.
  7. I searched for some very specific phrases on Google, looking for some very specific porn, and came across your site. Now, instead of being addicted to online porn, I’ve decided I’d like to take up reading quality literature instead. Do you have recommendations? One of Katie’s all-time-favorites is The Great Gatsby.  Maria loves House of Sand and Fog. Those should get you started while we put together a list of our faves, organized by topic. We will add this page soon.
  8. What posts have been shared most? Katie’s have been this (on motherhood craziness) and this (on supporting a friend who is depressed).  Until she wrote about queefing, Maria’s was this. (She’d rather you judge her writing ability by the latter.)
  9. What have been some topics you’ve gone back-and-forth about? One of the more popular exchanges has been about jealousy and envy. We’ve also written about calling a place “home”, about going to church and not going to church, and about what to make of cultural standards of beauty.
  10. It must be nice to have so much time on your hands that you can sit around and write blog posts all day. Is staying at home with your kids as easy as it appears? It’s actually easier. You forgot about the chocolates for breakfast, the wine we have with lunches prepared for us by personal chefs, the nannies, the personal assistants, gardeners, and house-cleaners, who do everything for us. It’s really a fabulous life. In fact, we both need to get outside now, to lie in the sun by the pool, maintained by Giovanni and Fernando, our Italian pool-boys.

This is Giovanni. He helps out sometimes.
(image from youbentmywookie.com.)

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